In A Relationship, Wrap It.

(11.30AM)

Hey everyone.

To those that have been slaves of Facebook, (I'm a pretty valuable Slave there) I'm sure all of you have seen my Relationship Status on Facebook.

I'm in a Relationship.

Wait for it....... with, my computer.

Yes, I know it's sad.

Here are her specs.

AMD Phenom II x4 BE 3.2Ghz

Asus Mobo M4A87TD/USB3

Kingston Value Ram DDR3 1333 - @ GB x2

WD Desktop SATA 500 GB BLUE

ASUS 24x DVDRW SATA BLACK

ASUS EAH5750 FORMULA 1GB GDDR5 PCIE

CoolerMaster ELITE 335

Vantec ION 2 620Watt PSU

Coolermaster Hyper TX 3

AOC E2240VW BLK 21.5 LED

For RM2230! I think its like the cheapest performance gaming rig so far! Got it on National Day.

XD

Don't worry, I'm calling it quits with her by the end of this holiday. After that it'll be a strictly "professional" relationship.

Hahaha.

I do remember saying in the comments that "Computers don't disappoint as much as girls"

Ladies, I take that back.

It should be, "computers don't disappoint as much as people".

Reason being. Computers are programmed to deliver, humans aren't.

I wouldn't want to change that. We are after all humans.

Most importantly, it shouldn't be only girls.

Yet, it seems so mainly because I have higher expectations for girls.

Because from countless times, boys seem to prove more hopeless to me.

So it isn't fair for the girls.

There aren't equal expectations (history has shown that it never had been)

Still, not that I hate girls/guys/anyone for that fact.

Just that the many experiences I have had led me to come to such a statement.

Nevermind that.

=)

Back from Korea. Might post a few pictures. =)

Still, being on the airplane for 6 hours each. Also in the bus for about a total of 10+/- hours, it leaves me with a total of 22 hours of nothing to do.

Besides sleep, watch movie, annoy bro.

So thats still quite a bit of free time with nothing to do.

That kind of free time does things to you.

Which has allowed a seed of thought within my mindspace to grow and flourish, blossom in fact.

Now in full bloom, the time is right to pick to fruit, before it wilts and dies.

Hopefully the seeds of the fruit will be sowed into your heads as well.

Lets hope it doesn't take over you.

Mind you, I am in a pretty, optimistic-normal state right now.

So all my thoughts are not that bias.

But maybe my perceptions will change when my emotions go downhill.

I have realised, and I'm sure you have too (if you have went through all of my posts, I am emotionally touched if you have, do let me know. XP), that for the past year(s) of blogging, my stand on Relationships have been changing at times.

I contradict myself.

Call me an ironic ass, or a hypocrite.

Still, it must be made clear, that all the points of view I have presented, hold true to me at that point of time.

Forgive me if it has ruined your life, or cause you sorrow.

I am here merely with my best interests to share my thoughts, as well as remove the plants that have grown from the seeds in my mind.

(enough plant metaphors)

Perhaps I haven't been "growing up" or "becoming closer to the universal truth", rather than moving up in a linear route, I may have been remaining in an endless Merry-Go-Round.

I'm going to try to wrap it all up (impossible I know), however, do not think badly of me, as it may be bias at this time, or it may offend you. (you are always welcome to stop reading)

Still, what ever I say now, holds true to me now.

Don't know how long that will last.

So where do I start?

This is going to be one long post.

(press CTRL and + on your keyboard to enlarge the fonts, nothing to be ashamed of, I do it too)

When I speak of love, fellow readers and friends. Let me say that I am not going to talk about the love that exists between parents, teachers, GOD (which god you believe in, I'm sure the love they all have holds true and very powerful). Or even some big version of love you all have.

Even true love.

This is because, it's impossible to accomplish it at this age.

Also, as I believe a monk has explained before (forgive me I do not know his name). That that kind of love, the you-are-my-patner kind, the nice one that leads to marriage etc, is selfish.

Selfish love.

For if it was true, or the actual L-O-V-E, both partners would be okay if the other had left him/her for another person. Whatever their descision.

That they would never fight for their love.

Simply because, they have their best interests at heart.

(i.e: Your husband/wife cheats on you and ends up with another person, you are okay with it, you don't go angry, sad, vengeful, yet you simply forgive and let the person go, no strings attached, as you want the person to be happy and have their best interests at heart.)

(EDIT 30/12: okay, bad example. thats just wrong, here's another one: the one you love has decided to go with another man/woman, and you are perfectly fine with it, and even not make him/her feel bad, for you have their best interests in heart. you want the best for them) (thanks to Hannah for pointing that out =) )

Nevermind that kind.

Or even that we-shall-marry-have-kids-and-stand-by-your-side-forever kind.

I'm talking about the "love" that exists between us teens now.

You may throw in infatuation too if you like.

But I'm stressing on the one that goes "you happy, I happy" and "live in the moment, not thinking of the future" kind. The type that seems to complete you.

Though related, I'm not talking about the "rush one gets, the type that always makes you miss a heartbeat, or even lock up, aka Infatuation. Or even puppy love for me"

Aiyoh, the one that exists now. The boyfriend, girlfriend type. You know la.

So no one compare what I'm saying here to God's Love or Parent's Love, Sibling Love.

-I'm pretty sure one day I shall laugh at myself as the boy that doesn't get the whole thing. Or how much of an ironic asshole I am, still it's not for me to think for now-

After all that I have gone through.

I can say safely, that I have no surefire way to get someone to love you.

Everyone is different.

So I hope you won't take this as a guide to get someone's heart. Yet merely as a blog post. That entertains your thoughts.

Hopefully it will help you someway.

However, I'm pretty sure that I have got a few things right.

=P

Do comment in the Cbox.

Wait, let me clear this.

I can safely say, that not only for me but also many of the boys out there.

We can't really define what we want.

But if you girls have thought that at this time we want a girlfriend. Well, thats not completely right.

That is merely secondary.

I guess most of us, merely want someone to like us back the way we like them, to care, to share, more than friends.

You get the point.

(This does not include the insincere people that just want something, be it sex.)

Girlfriends are secondary.

"Somebody to Love, Love Me"

Yes, I like Justin Bieber's songs.

Before anyone decides to devote everything to this lovey dovey relationship stuff, I must say that it isn't worth it.

The sad times aren't worth it. The times that screw one up.

I'm saying that its great to love someone/ be in a relationship.

The happy times sure are worth it.

But it isn't worth it when you go sad and all.

Or when you lose everything else for it.

Not now.

Always remember. Keep you eye on the ball. (Guys, don't look down okay)

Studies. God. Life. Family.

After that, friends, or special friends or lover, you go arrange that however you see it.

So don't lose everything for this kind of love (im tired of saying this kind of love, or how I have phrased it, it shall be refered to as love for now). It's secondary. Or Tertiary. As far as happy times go, its real sweet and all. But not for the sad times.

We are all suckers for romance aren't we.

Girls, or even guys, given the current world, don't give everything or even believe in everything that person says. Words of romance and honey-ed words will not keep anything going for long.

Try to make sure that its sincere (good luck finding that out).

I still go awww when it comes to sweet/touching things. Even believe in them, but I do realise sooner or later. So I hope everyone out there doesn't give everything just like that.

Anyway.

I am but of course expressing my thoughts. I'm sure all of you think differently.

For everyone that's in this game.

Don't be possessive.

This holds true for those that aren't together but are "courting", "trying to get someone to care more than friends" but even for for those that have a boy/girl friend.

Many many relationships have failed, simply because one is too possessive.

Bear in mind that they are still individuals, humans, and not something you own and control.

(tho you can call that person mine)

You can't wear that. You can't go to that, I'm not letting you go for that, you can't talk to that person because I say so. Don't tie your hair like that.

Everyone, that special someone isn't a slave that you have affections for.

Being a bystander, so so many relationships in school have died because one is too possessive, boy or girl.

If you are experiencing it. If you are frustrated. Please understand why.

He/She simple loves you too much.

To the extent that they are afraid of losing you.

This causes jealousy, suspicion, and all that other bad feelings.

They love you too much.

As nice as that sounds. They have to realise that everyone needs space.

Its all about trust here.

No one likes to be controlled.

So everyone should know that, before it's too late.

(time for a quote)

Power of a Relationship Lies with the one who cares less.

(yet) Power isn't happiness, it is for those who care more. -Made Of Honor

-Still, don't care to the extent that one is a control freak-

Next up, I live by a universal rule,

NEVER ask a girl/woman about her age, weight, or height.

In general physique.

UNLESS you are real close, or absolutely, positively, without a doubt sure she doesn't mind/ is proud of it.

Age applies to elder women.

This may work for guys as well.

Be nice.

No one likes bad boys/girls, unless its for a fling. Or thats how I see it, now.

Show that he/she is special.

Duh.

Care.

Effort.
Nothing can ever hold for long if no one puts in an effort. Or if only one puts in an effort. eg one sided love. It won't be soon before long before the one putting in effort realises its not a very nice situation and then leaving. Its a good thing I believe. But as with cause and effect. Effort must be put in for a result.
(a non-love related example would be how my class blog has failed)
Everything relies on effort. Really, to those that have been putting in all the effort. Let go for awhile and see what happens. Ah well.

I'm pretty sure there are many more, but it isn't coming to me right now.

Besides, everyone is different.

"I didn't forget, I'm just not remembering it right now."-Ash, Pokemon

Make sure that if you have the same feelings too for the other person, don't take to long to show it. (not saying confess, but don't hide it). No one likes waiting around forever with nothing.

Don't wait for something that won't happen, but don't go too fast either.

Conversely:

"Never teach a cow how to sing, it wastes your time, and it annoys the cow"

(thanks!)

a better chinese one would be "to play songs for the cow" (对牛弹琴)

I shall execute wordplay here.

对牛谈情 - to hit on the cow, to go for the cow. hahahahaa

English translation fails.

I'm not saying that the person of an interest is a cow.

Just that, well, depends on how you see it. (its just a metaphor!)

If you're all torn up and emo and all, just move on.

If you can that is.

=)

But of course, its fine if you don't. Right? haha.
maybe. if you can balance the universal forces. XP

Nothing is forever.

(Save the few cases that really are true love).

As much as I wish at times it would.

I'm pretty sure what's last year, is so different this year.

Humans change.

I still believe in sincerity and transparency, hope, and all that sentimental stuff.

Integrity.

But perhaps some day, as the world is continually changing me, as much as I may resist it. What may seem important to me, or what I believe in now, will matter nothing next time.

Whatever, its not for me to think.

Don't expect/hope too much.

I'm sure you'll be happier that way.

But of course, it is greed that propels man too greater heights.

I'm just saying don't go all sad that it isn't what you expect.

Respect his/her.

Decision/ or anything.

You can never force someone to do something they dislike. Only encourage.
Assume you managed to force someone to do something, will you feel victory? Maybe so, but it pretty much ruins all the atmosphere, and makes it all awkward. Leaving you with regret. So unless your a boss or even a paying customer, with no ties/futher meetings with that person, forcing someone to do something doesn't make life happy.

Appreciate what you have now, in the moment.

Nothing is forever (exclude the few cases), appreciate what you have, while balancing what you want/expect. Before it's gone. It'll be too late.

If it's over and gone, while, just appreciate that you had what you had when you had it. (LOL)

At least you had something.

Special.

Always remember to keep your eye on the ball.

Think less.

I'm not going to ask to Don't think too much.

If I say Don't think of an elephant.

What will you think of?

Exactly.

Everything is never as it seems, yada yada, and some things aren't meant to be thought of.

Just stay happy.

For the pessimists:

Hope is the worst of all evils, for it prolongs the torment of man.

-Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

Expectation is the root of all heartache

-William Shakespeare

For the optimists:

Don't really have one.

OR, Don't need one.

So long as you believe?

Here you go.

“Hope is the most exciting thing in life and if you honestly believe that love is out there, it will come. And even if it doesn't come straight away there is still that chance all through your life that it will.” - Josh Hartnett

“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”

“Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though they've been betrayed, to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.”

"I have not failed, I have merely found another way that doesn't work"

[PS:special thanks to someone for this one :) ]

So, just enjoy what you have. Fail or not. and the less you try to screw yourself up, the happier you stay.

Girls/Guys being sought after, please don't try to be sympathetic and put up with it. It ain't right. It's hard. Sure he/she may be happy. But only for awhile. As with lying/telling late. It's best to come clean straight at times. It may seem to hurt more. But trust me, if he/she finds out later, see which one has more hit points.

Conversely, much as I like openess and transparency, I do know, that there are things that aren't meant to be asked, at least not at a time. Besides, whats the fun and mistique if all is gone? :P

So long as you try. Then no one can use that stupid : "You never try, you never know" statement. You can silently say, "But I do know". Try, do your best, in everything, its all that matters too.

These things aren't worth losing everything for.

and this isn't everything. Not now.

Notice how I can contradict one point and another?

It all depends on how you see it.

The way I see it now, stay happy. and content.

For that is what I am, now.

=)

Given all that has happened, I'm happy and content.

(Hope I don't contradict myself)

Besides, Christmas is tomorrow.

forgive and forget, tis' the season to be jolly.

fa la la la la. la la la la.

(btw, I finally understood why some use Xmas! Because Christ relates to the Cross. +, which Christmas = +mas. (cross la) Which then when typed, comes out as an X (slanted cross, or the cross cross) get it?

teehee.

Another quote. Gee, I love quotes.

Love is like a quick cup of coffee, if you don't have the guts to love someone share it while its hot, you'll end up drinking it yourself. -Made Of Honor

Not really related. Nevermind.

Bf/Gf relationships really aren't for our age. That game is a little too viscous. But like alcohol and porn and bad words, things forbidden are always somewhat appealing.

So be my guest if you want a relationship. Just warning you that you should not risk everything for it.

Relationships are meant to be relaxing, not stressful (again remove all the serious marriage, family, kids, yada yada stuff. No need to think so far at this age.)

Study! SPM next year.

But have fun.

Lastly, take it slow.

No need to move so fast.
Even if it isn't going anywhere, relax la.

Appreciate what you have.

(I must have said this a few times already, cuz I try to appreciate.)

So, good luck to those that try, and all the best? Remember, study, this is not primary. Take it slow. Relax.

You know what.

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle

Life is a maze and love is a riddle.

Slow it down

Make it stop--

Or else my heart is going to pop

'Cause it's too much

Yeah, it's a lot

To be something I'm not

I'm a fool

Out of love

'Cause I just can't get enough

I am just a little girl lost in the moment

I'm so scared but I don't show it

I can't figure it out

It's bringing me down I know

I've got to let it go

And just enjoy The Show.

=)

Merry Christmas and Happy holidays.

Be happy.

(3.37PM, bout 2 hours, minus lunch outside)